Hi!
Great news today! For months now, my mother and I have fought for me to get some form of economic compensation since I can't money from CSN. It has to do with my depression. I can't get money from CSN and still get compensation elsewhere. It's been a long ride, with paperwork, telephone calls and God knows what else. I've almost given up sometimes, it's sort of a neverending story. But with Mom's help I've managed to scrape through. As a matter of fact, I wouldn't have been able to cope with the stress involved if it hadn't been for her!
So anyway, yesterday Mom phoned me and said that I will recieve FULL compensation. That means I get a certain sum every month since I can't work. My doctor has put me on sick-leave for at least three years so this was wonderful news. I actually started crying after we had hung up. A bit of the tension eased up. I think the most important thing I'll be able to do first is changing my surname to Mom's maiden name. And, when I feel better, I might get help to find an apartment of my own and a job. Feels kind of unreal to tell you the truth. This journey isn't over by a long shot but thanks to this, and Mom's support, I'm one step closer to recovery!
tisdag 23 november 2010
fredag 12 november 2010
How to handle awkward questions
Hello again! Sorry about my abscense, there hasn't really been any major events or changes worth sharing here. But now I'm back, and it's time for a new post with a specific theme!
Recovering from SI is, as you already know, a great achievement and a difficult one at that. Maybe you just want to put it in the past and forget all about it once you've won. Or will you stand up for yourself? Or maybe a bit of both? Whichever you choose, there will be questions. That's inevitable. Sad but true. That's why it's important to start working with yourself while you're still fighting, so that you don't get caught completely off guard. The more prepared you are, the easier you'll find it to handle.
So the first thing to remember, is that people who seem angry or spiteful very often do so because they are scared or don't understand.Or to put it another way, people are often scared of what they can't understand. But instead of asking, they hide it behind masks of animosity. It's an instinct. Showing fear equals easier target.
Secondly, self-injury has become somewhat of a trend among youths. If I for example go out for a walk in town, wearing a t-shirt or a three quarter-sleeved top, there is always someone who dishes out snide remarks. I think the two most usual comments I get are " Jesus Christ, not another attentionseeker!"and "Please go someplace else, we really don't need to see you messing yourself up!". Those kinds of comments often appear when I'm in public places, like the Gym. It's not directed to you personally, but rather in general. These are just people who don't bother to think outside the box.
Finally, remember that this is the real victory. Being able to walk around in the clothes you choose, no matter where you go, even though you have scars, shows that you are strong and stubborn as a mule. You didn't give up, you fought back and you won. Be proud of yourself and people will slowly begin to see the real you!
Recovering from SI is, as you already know, a great achievement and a difficult one at that. Maybe you just want to put it in the past and forget all about it once you've won. Or will you stand up for yourself? Or maybe a bit of both? Whichever you choose, there will be questions. That's inevitable. Sad but true. That's why it's important to start working with yourself while you're still fighting, so that you don't get caught completely off guard. The more prepared you are, the easier you'll find it to handle.
So the first thing to remember, is that people who seem angry or spiteful very often do so because they are scared or don't understand.Or to put it another way, people are often scared of what they can't understand. But instead of asking, they hide it behind masks of animosity. It's an instinct. Showing fear equals easier target.
Secondly, self-injury has become somewhat of a trend among youths. If I for example go out for a walk in town, wearing a t-shirt or a three quarter-sleeved top, there is always someone who dishes out snide remarks. I think the two most usual comments I get are " Jesus Christ, not another attentionseeker!"and "Please go someplace else, we really don't need to see you messing yourself up!". Those kinds of comments often appear when I'm in public places, like the Gym. It's not directed to you personally, but rather in general. These are just people who don't bother to think outside the box.
Finally, remember that this is the real victory. Being able to walk around in the clothes you choose, no matter where you go, even though you have scars, shows that you are strong and stubborn as a mule. You didn't give up, you fought back and you won. Be proud of yourself and people will slowly begin to see the real you!
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